BROTHER IN LAW PROBLEMS _____________******_______________ hi guys, i have been married 6 years this year and have sadl...
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BROTHER IN LAW PROBLEMS
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hi guys, i have been married 6 years this year and have sadly no choice but to have my brother in law living with us due to to financial issues and the death of a parent.
He is an older brother to my husband and my husband feels like he is responsible for him so he lives with us and our children.
In comparison to my husband his brother was wrapped in cotton wool by his mother like i have never seen. To the point they were sleeping in the same bed up until she passed away.
He doesnt know how to use a microwave, crack an egg or even make toast or a cup of tea. Completely smothered. Its pathetic bearing in mind this man is 36 years old.
I am so fed up of living with him,
he has no hygiene, never has a shower, smells like a tramp, his bedroom is like a food garbage truck and he loves living in filth as he is pure lazy. He works, gambles and drinks as he is single and has no other life.
He has been sheltered all these years by his mother, doesnt even know how to fry an egg let alone make a damn sandwich.
he leaves a trail of mess wherever he goes and leaves rubbish absolutely everywhere around the house. Food all over floor, eats like a pig, chicken bones on the floor of his room, old rubbish bags full of old food. Hes so lazy he hides plates so he doesnt even have to bring them down for me to wash. Its RANK.
i cook i clean as i am a Stay at Home mother and wife, and i attend and serve my husband, he even expects me to plate his food up like i am his damn mother or wife. And if i dont he gets really angry. But i refuse to do that for him.
And NO i do not do anything for him other than cook for the family and clean up.
my husband and I are not in a financial position to get him out as he helps out also financially towards our home.
i feel stuck, i feel resentment towards my husband as he has never done anything to get him out and i know its not doable because of money and now things have gone up the future looks bleak.
my brother in law has done several things that could have put my little one in danger, started a fire (next to an aerosol) and then blamed me while my baby was in the next room. He has left the front door open (many times) knowing my son had started walking, left pennies everywhere knowing our baby could place it in his mouth and one day he did put the money coin in his little mouth, and luckily i caught it in time.
these are just some things.
Just yesterday i kept warning him to be careful as my 3 year old keeps going in his room and has attempted to open the window and stands literally on the window ledge which is so scary. Yet again he let him do that and my son was half way out the window luckily I saved my baby. I screamed at him yesterday as I could have lost my son. He is the most selfish and careless man I have ever met. He refers to my baby as oi and that annoys me.
he eats chocolate for breakfast and a coke, and my little one thinks this is okay to do and demands chocolate. He does it in front of him even when i have told him not to.
I am stuck, both financially and emotionally because i just dont know what to do. I want to leave my husband and this house but dont want to as i dont want to be a single mum with nothing.
I feel so low and depressed.
I sadly regret marrying my husband because of this. We have no privacy and neither do I as a woman. When we first got married he would just barge in to our bedroom without knocking he is one hell of an A HOLE.
i just needed to get this out and any suggestions or advice would be greatly appreciated.
P.s - I have around 8k in the bank I dont work as I am very sick with multiple ailments and just about parent our baby on my own as my husband doesnt help with parenting AT ALL.
I wonder if I could get housing support.
Any advice my darlings? X
Sent in by Goldencoconut
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